
I have read somewhere once before from a Chopra book that "Love doesn't come from the heart but from the soul".
The heart is but a symbol of this, because the heart is the most volatile of organs. It is involuntary and it is the first organ that can reveal truth of feeling as expressed by the body. But in essence, the heart is nothing more than a yardstick of the extent of affectation in a particular situation, and in itself cannot produce love, nor give it. It is however, the representation of our humanity, and of the fickleness of human love. It is the soul that loves immortally.
It is lacking therefore to say I love you with all my heart because this is fleeting, much like the voracious drive of lust, the heart is slave to nothing more than the whims of our fickle nature at any given time. It cannot sustain us because it is exhaustible through disillusionment and boredom. To fully love someone should therefore come from a bottomless source where nothing can corrupt nor consume it.
I would start with the soul. The soul is immortal. It is with the soul that one can communicate with God, and receive God's love for us, replenishing each day with an overflowing source of love for us to give. For love to be immortalized and not be limited within the boundaries of human weakness, one must be able to tap into the immortality of his soul and draw love from this immortal fount which comes from God:
37Now on the final and most important day of the Feast,
Jesus stood, and He cried in a loud voice,
"If any man is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink!
38He who believes in Me [who cleaves to and trusts in and relies on Me]
as the Scripture has said, From his innermost being shall flow [continuously]
springs and rivers of living water." (John 7:37-38, AMP).
To be able to love fully, one must channel love from God as the immortal source through one's soul. This would release the lover from the transitoriness of human love alone. In here love shifts between immortal and human, depending on the circumstances in the relationship between the lover and the beloved.
Human love is momentary rapture- unable to sustain itself and is impatient and impulsive. On the other hand, Immortal love is the key to the stability of what is felt and patience. Patience draws power from hope. Hope is renewed through faith in God's providence. When this cycle is completed, love is perfected in it's immortality, hence it's eternity, because to be immortal means forever, and few are able to love this way. Just look at the brokenness all around and see what I mean.
Then there must also be harmony between the heart and the soul to be able to love fullest. The heart symbolizing our mortality and the soul representing our eternity, their union is paramount. Without this perfect mixture, love can never be completed.
To be able to do this however, one must possess a heart and soul that may be scarred but must not at all be broken. This is very important because a break in either can yield suffering on both the lover and the beloved, because when this happens, love is corrupted from the beginning and can never be made perfect. Before one loves then, he must make sure that he is freed from whatever brokenness of the past: he must be remade.
If a man should give his heart, he should ascertain that he links his soul to it. Then there maybe hope for the relationship still. This is what I believe.
When I gave my heart,it loves from my soul. This truly is everything I can give to anyone and I am in a mixture of emotions, all of which are in hopes for my beloved who deserves nothing less from me inasmuch as to love is the duty of every man:
"However,
each one of you also must love his wife
as he loves himself, and
the wife must respect
her husband." Ephesians 5:3 (NIV)
In here, the man's love is bound to his responsibility to give love, and the woman's love is manifested through her respect and acceptance.
This is what I believe in. This difference that equates complement. Love expressed differently, according to what has been, is, and will always be; this is divine standard. As such, it is beyond refute.
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*Read also previous blog posts entitled Valentine Equivocal Blasphemy and Lust AND Love